I'm still looking for elaboration. I assume there's more to the idea than "aggressive players are dom. and defensive players are sub." given how superficial that sounds.
This thread is awkward as fuck now. Even if I want to do the girl I am playing against(which only happened like once ever) that sexual desire takes a back seat to me wanting to kick her ass in the game.
I find it ephemerally enjoyable but overrated. It only fascinates me when I consider the dualistic elements (psychological, sociological, etc.). The act intrinsically, in a vacuum, is not something I require to be satisfied, given my future-oriented focus. Thus, it serves as a vice (that is to say: a distraction).